Growing up in church, our "Christian Sex Education" was more like "Sex Mis-Information". While I appreciate what the adults were attempting to do, I don't condone their methods of "keeping us pure" by frightening us with stories of those infected with HIV, abortions, and teen pregnancy. Fear only works for so long. I stayed in the teen group a little longer than most, and in the early 1990s I can remember all of the youth group being herded into the basement of the church. The church's TV and VCR was down there. We were not separated by gender, and we constantly giggled when the man on the Christian videos mispronounced "puberty".
Of course, any normal teenager wants to know EVERYTHING about sex even if they are not sexually active. However, no normal teenager is going to ask questions in front of the youth leaders, their husbands, and 15 members of the opposite sex. The adults may have even planned it this way so they wouldn't be caught off guard with any questions they didn't want to answer!
Twenty years later. . .
Dannah Gresh publishes the book What Are You Waiting For?: The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex . I've been seeing links to CNN's religion blog with her article My Take: There's Nothing Brief About a Hookup . In fact, this link was shared quite often by my Facebook friends, so when I had the opportunity to review her book, I jumped at the chance.
What you will NOT find in What Are You Waiting For?:
You will NOT find exaggerated facts to scare teens into not having sex. You will NOT find mis-information.
What you WILL find in What Are You Waiting For?:
You WILL find honest facts. You WILL find reasons (mainly spiritual and emotional) she believes teenagers and other singles should wait until marriage. You WILL find honest talk about subjects my youth leaders shied away from 20 years ago.
You can watch Dannah Gresh's book trailer here:
Obviously, with the content of the book, I would recommend it for high schoolers and above. It is not for the faint of heart (and my youth leaders likely would have fainted with this book in the 1980s.) But it's real! I have a number of friends who are young adults, and this is common knowledge to them even if it wasn't so much talked about when I was their age?
Ready to dive into a frank discussion about God's plan for sex and why she believes people should wait until marriage? You can read chapter one right here on my blog.
What Are You Waiting For by Dannah Gresh (Chapter 1)
Ready to buy this book to read to yourself or give to your daughter? You can do so here:
This is a book I wish we would have had available to us in the 1980s. Maybe we could have had our questions answered better with less giggling! I'm glad to see there are books like this for this generation of young people!
FTC disclaimer: I received a copy of this book to review from the publisher. In no way did that influence my opinion of the book.
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